Friday, September 28, 2012

do landon and i fight? like cats and dogs.

do we ever disagree? every day.

is one of us ALWAYS right? you can count on it.

do we prove each other wrong? all the time.

say you're engaged to the "man of your dreams." he's absolutely perfect, you have never really fought before, it's been a loooooong 8 months of dating (ha good ol' utah...) and you "know everything about this person" or, so you promise yourself that you will never fight and that if you ever have a disagreement, it will be worked out all out of love and kindness and you'll be making up 5 minutes or less, later.
good plan. and good luck.

you're now happily married and a problem starts to arise. how do you handle it? just like you practiced when you were dating, right?..wrong. you've never really been in an argument with your spouse, so how would either of you know how to handle a situation like so? it goes one way or the other, very good, or very very wrong.

now i'm not saying you should try to cause problems in your relationship to get practice, i just believe it is important, that to a certain extent, to not get discouraged when minor problems occur in your relationship. i'm not writing this to give myself a peace of mind, land and i have literally been to hell and back with this, and we are just starting to figure each other out a year later and how to handle things the right way, but you know what? "if" ;) i were to marry landon, i could honestly say that i am confident in the way that we handle things together because of the practice and many many experiments we've had with it. sure, it sucks to fight with people you love. but you know what? it's life. it happens to EVERYONE. don't let anyone tell you it doesn't, because if anyone says that, they are either lying, or it's still yet to come.

why am i writing this? i don't really know to be honest.

maybe because i love, love. 

i love to analyze and understand why people do the things they do.

and you know what, all i can narrow it down to, is that people do crazy, stupid, indescribable things when they are in love. and that's just how it's supposed to be.

yup. i'm one of those. a hopeless romantic. sue me.

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